Isn't it time for another one?
You need to have a little girl.
When is the next one coming?
He needs a brother or sister.
I just don't understand why other people think they know what I, my child, and my family need. I don't question your decision to have no kids, two, or ten, at least to your face, so please leave mine and my husband's choice in our hands. It is so nosey, so rude, and so annoying to hear this over
and over
and over again lately.
Not even my mom asks, nor my sisters, not to mention my closest friends.
Maybe we had trouble conceiving the first time, and our child is a miracle. Perhaps we have been told we can't have more children. It may be that we have received confirmation from above that we are a complete family. There is always the possibility of the snip-snip already being performed. Or we just want one kid.
Whatever the reason or reasons, how insensitive for those not in our shoes to ask.
Mind your own, please, and I will mind mine.
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Please tell me it wasn't my mom that asked this!?! No, I'm better off not knowing....
ReplyDeleteNot to take away from your venting-but I'm going to take a positive outlook on this, and say that "they" must say it because you are doing such a fantastic job with your sweet boy.
Seriously though, you have a good point. When I couldn't get pregnant with a third child, people always questioned my decision to stop at two. Even now, with three kids people question why I wouldn't want an even number of kids. (Like that's the magic answer to family happiness). It's made me a lot more sensitive to others' choices and (in many cases)pain. Hopefully it has stopped me from saying unintentional, but ignorant things.... at least on this issue....
So when are you having another one? Ha ha:)
ReplyDeleteI am so with you on this one. I hear it all the time because of the age gap between #2 and 3. What if .... what they don't know... is none of their business.
ReplyDeletePS I miss your comments and sometimes I am lonely for your words and lessons. (but just sometimes;))